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You are here: Home / ASD / World Book Day and other Dressing Up Days – why they’re not fun for everyone.

World Book Day and other Dressing Up Days – why they’re not fun for everyone.

25/02/2020

World Book Day is fast approaching (5th March) and it is just one of a number of ‘Dresing Up Days’ that primary schools have throughout the year, whether for charity, a history trip or another themed activity.

As a mum, I know the heaviness of heart that comes with “mum… I need a pirate/ Victorian/ striped/ times table related/ rainforest/ book themed costume this Friday”.   If you’re really fortunate, your child might actually give you some notice, rather than springing this on you the day before!

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 As an ex-primary school teacher, I know the value of days like this – to engage children in a topic, work together to raise money and (hopefully) enjoy a slightly different day in school.  However, as an Educational Psychologist, I also see the amount of stress and anxiety days like this can cause some children.

What makes dressing up days stressful for some children?

First, they’re different!  For children with autism, anxiety or who just really thrive on routine, being out of uniform is stressful.  The dressing up days often include an aspect of being off timetable – and possibly with a different menu at lunchtime.  Peers and teachers look different and they might be ‘in character’ which is even more confusing.  It’s a full-on sensory experience and for some, that’s too much.  For many children, their standard is wearing uniform for school and that’s what they can cope with. 

For other children, they may not enjoy dressing up.  If you take a group of adults, there will be some who love a fancy-dress party and others who would do anything to avoid going.  Children are equally entitled to feel like this.

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The addition of simple accessories (eg a wand and glasses) can help a child who does not want to go the whole hog to join in.

For any child, costumes can be itchy, uncomfortable, hot/cold and often impractical for a usual school day.  There is also often recognition in the classroom for the ‘best’ costume (and even a prize) which turns the whole event into a competition rather than an enjoyable experience. 

Despite our best efforts, children are often judgemental and quick to comment on the differences between shop bought/homemade outfits and criticise those who have remained in their school uniform.

How can you help?

As a parent, you know your child best.  If dressing up is going to make them anxious, upset, miserable or exacerbate other medical conditions, talk to their teacher.  We very much hope their teacher will understand that it’s better for your child to be in school in uniform, rather than at home or at school being distressed.

If you think your child could manage the morning and then get back into ‘normal’ school clothes – make a plan with their teacher and send their uniform in with them.  Find a solution that works for you – it might be that they wear a hat, or a loose interpretation on the required outfit or their favourite shoes.

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As a teacher, try to normalise the fact that some children won’t dress up.  Of course, some will just forget!  However, it’s better for a child who finds dressing up too stressful to be in school in their uniform experiencing the day that way, rather than being at home or extremely upset.  Work with the parents/carers, your SENCO, TAs and/or other staff to see how you can make the day a positive learning experience.

It’s not a competition

As supermarkets fill their shelves with book week costumes and you can order pretty much any outfit from Amazon, do take a step back and accept that dress up days are not a test of your parenting skills/wealth/ability to pull rabbits out of hats. 

With so many of these costumes being highly flammable, not sturdy enough to pass on and ending up in landfill, a more sustainable approach to dress up days must be possible.  Be resourceful with what you’ve got, spend some time creating the outfit with your child and do what you can manage.

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A plain jumper and trousers plus a bit of hair gel and, hey presto, you’re Tin Tin.

Many parents share pictures of their child dressed up on their social media accounts – before you do, we’d recommend you take a look at these tips on sharenting from Internet Matters.  Equally, make sure that if your child is in photos with other children dressed up from their class, these are only shared between the school and parents, not online.


If you think we could help your child or would like more advice for your school, please do, get in touch

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  1. Clair

    03/03/2022 at 11:03 am

    We dread World Book Day every year. My youngest son is in Year 6 and was diagnosed with ASD in year 3. He loves to read, loves books but hates the dress up. He hates just as much being the only child who didn’t dress up, so as soon as it’s announced we are in an endless loop of anxiety trying to find a way for him to dress up without really dressing up. This generally involves me spending hours upon hours making props (a George: Medicine Maker name badge and a miraculous looking o.t.t. medicine bottle for example) so that he feels initially involved but soon discards. For us, I wish the focus could be more on reading activities, book games and less on costumes.

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    • Nicky Weisfeld

      10/03/2022 at 2:32 pm

      So true, Clair. I hope he manages to get through it OK and that his school is supportive of him and any other children who find days like this a trial.
      Nicky

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    • Charley Taylor

      04/05/2023 at 2:22 pm

      Sorry your boy feels that way. but you need to see it from the views of the other kids as-well. I mean most other kids want to dress up. They look forward to it. It’s about choice. Your boy don’t want to dress up and that’s ok. But “normal” (no offence as I have normal kid and an autistic kid) kids want to dress up and that’s ok. Face of life is already hard and boring so it’s nice to have fun at school at times!! It’s not fair to stop something fun just to someone else. He will grow up one day and learn that in the real adult world they don’t make allowances like that! X

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  2. Nicky Weisfeld

    05/05/2023 at 4:38 pm

    Charley

    Thank you for your comment. I think it just goes to show that one size doesn’t necessarily fit all. Some children love it. Others dread it. What’s needed is an awareness that views differ and to make events such as this as enjoyable as possible for ALL children .

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